Letters110 Letter CX. A consolatory letter to the parents of Geoffrey.

St Bernard of Clairvaux († 1153) · Epistolae · c. 1120-1153

Letter CX. A consolatory letter to the parents of Geoffrey.

There is no reason to mourn a son as lost who is a religions, still less to fear for his delicacy of constitution.

1. If God makes your son His son also, what do you lose or what does he himself lose? Being rich he becomes richer; being already high born, of still nobler lineage; being illustrious, he gains greater renown; and—what is more than all—once a sinner he is now a saint. He must be prepared for the Kingdom that has been prepared for him from the beginning of the world; and for this end, the short time that he has to live he must spend with us; until he has scraped off the tilth of the worldly life, and wiped away the earthly dust, and at last is fit for the heavenly mansion. If you love your son, of course you will rejoice, because he goes to His Father and to such a Father as He. Yea, he goes to God. But you lose him not: nay, rather through him you gain many sons. For all of us who are in or of Clairvaux, acknowledge him as a brother and you as parents.

2. But perchance you fear the effect of a severe life upon his body, which you know to be frail and delicate. But of such fear it is said, "There were they brought in great fear where no fear was" (Ps. xiv. 9). Reassure yourselves, and be comforted. I will be to him a father, and he shall be to me a son, until the Father of mercies and the God of all consolation (cf. Rom. xv. 5) receive him from my hands. So do not mourn; do not weep. For your Geoffrey is hastening to joy and not to grief. I will be to him father, mother, brother, and sister. I will make the crooked straight for him and the rough ways smootli (cf. S. Luke iii. 5). I will so order and arrange everything for him that his soul shall profit and his body not suffer loss. Moreover, he shall serve the Lord in joy and gladness, and shall sing in the ways of the Lord that great is the glory of the Lord (Ps. cxxxviii. 5).

1. Si filium vestrum Deus facit et suum, quid vos perditis, aut ipse quid perdit? Fit de divite ditior, de nobili generosior, clarior de illustri; et, quod his omnibus majus est, sanctus de peccatore. Oportet autem eum praeparari regno quod sibi paratum est ab origine mundi, atque hujus rei gratia modicum tempus, quod vivere habet, manere nobiscum, donec abrasa spurcitia vitae saecularis, ac terreno deterso pulvere, coelesti mansioni fiat idoneus. Si diligitis eum, gaudebitis utique quia vadit ad Patrem, et talem Patrem. Ipse quidem vadit ad Deum, sed vos non perditis eum; quin potius multos per eum acquiritis vobis filios. Quotquot sumus in Clara-Valle vel de Clara-Valle ipsum in fratrem, vos in parentes suscipimus.

2. At fortassis metuitis corpori ejus vitae asperitatem, quod nimirum tenerum nostis esse ac delicatum. Caeterum de hujusmodi timore dicitur: Ibi trepidaverunt timore, ubi non fuit timor. Confidite, consolamini: ego ero illi in patrem, et ipse erit mihi in filium, quousque de meis manibus excipiat eum Pater misericordiarum et Deus totius consolationis. Nolite ergo lugere, et nolite flere; quia Gaufridus vester festinat ad gaudium, non ad luctum. Ego ero illi pater, ego mater, ego frater et soror. Ego faciam ei prava in directa, et aspera in vias planas: ego ei omnia sic temperabo et sic dispensabo, ut et spiritus proficiat, et corpus non deficiat. Denique serviet Domino in laetitia et exsultatione, et cantabit in viis Domini, quoniam magna est gloria Domini.

Samuel J. Eales (active by 1879; M.A., Principal of S. Boniface College, Warminster, in 1882), Life and Works of Saint Bernard, Abbot of Clairvaux, edited by Dom John Mabillon, vols. I-III, London: Burns & Oates / John Hodges, 1889-1896. Digital text: OCR of Internet Archive scans saintbernardlife00bernuoft, saintbernardlife02bernuoft, lifeworksofsaint03bern, word-repaired against second copies (lifeworksofsaint01bern, lifeworksofsaint02bern, LifeWorksOfSBernardClairvauxV3). Original text: Corpus Corporum (University of Zurich) TEI of the Patrologia Latina, via the CatholicCorpus mirror. Public domain in the US and Canada: published 1889-1896; translator active by 1879, an M.A. and principal in 1882; necessarily died before 1972. Latin: Migne, Patrologia Latina 182-183 (1854), public domain.

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